I’d like to take a moment to advise the young people of tumblr to never pick up smoking. Yes it’s perhaps cliche of me to say this and you all heard it before because they say it’s bad for you, they say it causes cancer and all that blah blah, so I’m not gonna rehash everything you’ve heard about smoking from your parents or teachers, doctors, media, etc.. nope.
What I’m gonna talk about is ADDICTION and COST.
Cigarette smoking is highly addictive. It is more addictive than HEROIN. Trying to quit is exceedingly difficult. A heroin junkie has more likelihood of success in quitting heroin than a smoker does at quitting smoking.
As a smoker, when one is out of cigarettes and has no money to buy some, they literally feel like they’re going crazy.. it is a very unpleasant feeling.. One becomes easily agitated, moody, irritable, cranky, etc. A smoker is chemically and psychologically dependent on nicotine.
Next, think about the money. Being a smoker my self and married to another smoker, our filthy nasty habit costs $105 every week between the two of us. That’s $5460 a year.. Money that could buy us a nice summer vacation every year, pay debt, improve our way of life, go out to dinner,movies, etc.. anything else but the fucking tobacco companies.
I started smoking when I was 18 years old. There were no warnings about the health risks, nor of the highly addictive properties. I tried to quit no less than 50 times and FAILED every single time. In the 13yrs I’ve been with my wife, I spent around $70,000!! This is equivalent to a fucking mortgage!!!
Before getting married, I spent an additional $60,000 on my nicotine addiction!!
24 years of smoking has cost me at least $130,000… I could of bought a house with that money.. I could of sent my children to college with that money.. I could of bought a few nice cars with that money.. I could of done ANYTHING with that, other than making the fucking tobacco companies RICH.
I used to be active and do lots of things.. now I run out of breath.. sometimes it is hard to breathe… Everything in my house eventually turns yellowish due to the smoke.
So badly I NEED to stop, yet every time, it fails.. I tried patches, I tried nicotine gum, nicotine lozenges, anything and everything and it FUCKING SUCKS!!!!!!!!
I turn 42yrs old in less than 2wks.. My time here on earth is getting shorter and thanks to this fucking addiction and the goddamn tobacco companies, my life will more than likely be much shorter than it would of been had I not ever smoked.. If I don’t stop, I will probably die alot sooner.
FUCK YOU PHILLIP MORRIS!! FUCK YOU R.J REYNOLDS!! FUCK YOU BIG TOBACCO!! « You better fucking lawyer up, because I’m coming after you for a few million.. YOU FUCKING RUINED MY LIFE!!!!!! I DEMAND COMPENSATION!!!!
I’m running out of time and there’s just so much I want to do..
Someday, I’m gonna be in a box and it’ll be too late..
Someday, I’m gonna be in a box with no means of regret..no turning back.
I want to look back on my life and be happy remembering the things I did, not be sad regretting the things I didn’t do. Life is rather difficult and it seems to me that I’m just alive, working to stay alive, but not really LIVING… If only there was a way to make life less difficult so I could enjoy my remaining days here on earth.
I’m tired of struggling just to stay alive when in the end I’m just gonna be put in a box.
It's Just Hearsay If You Don't Show Supporting Evidence
I’m getting a little bit more than annoyed by the various tumblr users whom are going around with a he said she said kind of communication.
I’d like to point out the fact that anything you say is nothing more than hearsay and your argument is technically invalid if you do not include specific supporting evidence to back up what you are claiming.
In the case of when you’re claiming a person, corporation or other has said something that is not true, or out of context, etc, if you do not include supporting evidence in your post, you are at risk of a libel lawsuit against you, and more importantly, if what you claim was stated is untrue, then you bet your ass you’re liable for libel.
Libel is when you publish something that is false or out of context that can damage or tarnish the reputation of a person or company, etc, etc and you can be sued for it.
You may think hiding behind an anonymous screen name, etc, etc will protect you, but you can bet your ass that Tumblr would be named as codefendent if they refused to furnish your information to the complainant. With your ip address, law enforcement can get your internet service account billing name and address, and then you would be served with summons to appear in court.
When you’re going to attribute a statement to a person or company, you need to link to where it was stated, and probably should make a screencap incase it is modified or deleted.
You present a more valid and factual argument when you provide the facts with supporting evidence, otherwise it’s baseless accusation.
Of all of the gender and sexual minorities in our culture, transsexual women tend to be the most maligned, ridiculed, and despised because we are uniquely positioned at the intersection of [three] binary gender-based forms of prejudice:
Transphobia is an irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against people who transgress gender norms. The prevalence of transphobia in our society is an indication of just how much pressure society places upon individuals to conform to all of the expectations, restrictions, assumptions, and privileges of their birth sex; this pressure is somewhat rooted in oppositional sexism.
Oppositional sexism is the belief in rigid, mutually exclusive gender categories that each possess oppositional and non-overlapping characteristics and traits (if men are big, women are small; if men are strong, women are soft, etc…), and that this gender binary is the natural order of things; anyone who defies this natural order should be dismissed or punished.
Misogyny (traditional sexism) is a tendency to dismiss and deride femaleness and femininity; the result is the oppression and social subordination of women. Misogyny is a hatred, mistrust, or dislike of women and the belief that maleness and masculinity are always superior to femaleness and femininity.
Trans-misogyny is where trans women are singled out for attention and ridicule, not just because we transgress gender norms, but because of our femaleness and expressions of femininity. Our femininity is what is sensationalized, sexualized, and trivialized in an attempt to marginalize and dismiss us. In contrast, while trans men still face discrimination for not adhering to gender norms, their expressions of maleness and masculinity are not targeted for ridicule; to do so would be to question the inherent superiority of masculinity, for why wouldn’t women want to be men?
In a sense then, there is no greater perceived threat than the existence of transsexual women, who despite being born male and inheriting male privilege, “choose” to be female instead. By embracing our own femaleness and femininity, we cast a shadow of doubt over the supposed supremacy of maleness and masculinity, and challenge the immutability and authenticity of the gender binary.
Most people think of LGBT issues as adult issues. But people are increasingly coming out of the closet when they’re young. And children aren’t just discovering their sexuality at a young age, they’re discovering their gender.
Behind most activism are non-profit organizations and grassroots organizers pushing for change. But the fight to recognize the concept of transgender children is a fight led by academics. Two at the forefront are Natacha Kennedy and Mark Hellen, who wrote an article entitled “Transgender Children: More Than a Theoretical Challenge.” The paper was published in the Graduate Journal of Social Science in December 2010.
Kennedy and Hellen suggest that transgender children develop their identity despite efforts within schools to enforce gender conformity. They argue that if schools introduced the idea of transgender people to children, it would significantly help transgender children as they grow up. The researchers conducted this study by surveying transgender adults about their childhood — they found that past research on transgender children could have been inaccurate because directly observing transgender children ignores the many children who hide their transgender identity through childhood.
Overall, the paper presents conclusions I can agree with. Many transgender people are aware of their gender identity at a young age, and they should know that they aren’t alone and that their identity is valid. And those children around them, who aren’t transgender, need to know that transgender people exist so they can learn to be accepting of such differences. Teaching children about transgender people at a younger age can help prevent future bullying and hate crimes, because it shows that transgender identity is normal.
Kennedy and Hellen prove that regardless of a person’s profession, they can act to help LGBT equality. Sometimes a research paper can influence public opinion and, eventually, public policy. By surveying transgender adults about their childhoods, the researchers are bringing important information to the public. And by publishing their conclusion that young children should learn about transgender people, they’re bringing validity to an idea that may otherwise be considered radical.
I think this is a good idea. It IS true that the educational system tries to enforce gender conformity.. at least they did when I was young… I tried so many times to come out and be my self.. at every opportunity, I was told that it was wrong, and they told me that I had to stop doing things like wearing makeup, etc because I had to “grow up and become a man”… It is because of the educational system, AND the bullying they ALLOWED from the other children that I ended up repressing my true self. It took decades to undo the damage caused by the educational system.
I lost out on so many opportunities because of the systems bigotry and close mindedness.. I was told I could not do gymnastics, because it’s for girls they said… I was told I could not be a cheerleader… because it’s for girls they said… I was told I could not wear makeup to class, or be expelled… I was told that I do not dress appropriately for a boy… I was called a fag, a freak, a fairy, all kinds of names.. I was beaten almost every single day, and then went into repression for over 20yrs, AFRAID..MISERABLE and living a LIE to meet the expectations of others… not knowing my true self or identity until coming out last year and learning who I am all over again.
I Don't Know if I Should Feel Flattered or Creeped Out
I went out to a club last night to meet up with some friends and after a couple hours I decided to separate from the group at the bar and took a seat on one of the sofas as my feet were getting tired and I was feeling a little buzzed after having a beer since I haven’t drank in several years.
So, I’m sitting there and this eighteen year old boy starts hitting on me and I’m thinking to my self “WTF.. I’m OLD” and since I’m married and only interested in woman, this was going to go nowhere for him anyway, but I didn’t know what to say to this kid and all I could think about was “dude.. I’m old enough to be your mother”..
This club has a few rooms and it seems every room I went to, this puppy followed me… I mean kid… and I began to feel a bit creeped out when I should of been flattered that such a young person found me attractive and wanted to spend time with me.
Sometime last night I read an answer in my dashboard where one of my followers responded to something one of her followers asked something about a boy who like the same band as her, but then stopped talking to her, then she met another boy who like the same band, but then he too stopped talking to her, but she told the second boy about the first boy and that the two boys become friends and that this girl was sad about the boys not being her friend any more.
I wanted to say something, but I was exhausted, so, here I am today and I want to tell that girl that just because you like the same band don’t mean anything.. SO WHAT… You need to have MORE IN COMMON for something to happen… Your personality must be captivating to hold them close to you… You could be the most beautiful person on earth, but without any personality or things in common, it’s not gonna happen.
Sure the band could be an ice breaker to initiate a conversation, but it NEEDS to move on to something else…. conversation on other topics.. questions.. to get to know each other and find out what you have in common with each other….. and most importantly, don’t forget that you’re still kids…. It’s statistically accurate that females are more mature than males at a young age… You can not expect a male CHILD to understand or recognize signals of love, lust or a crush from a female.
You have to MAKE THEM LOVE YOU… You do that by sharing common interests.. common values, and by sharing thoughts and ideas.
I feel like I’m losing my self and I don’t know who I am any more..
I once thought I knew who I was, but then discovered that I really wasn’t who I thought I was, but someone else, and then I began to understand that this is who I really am, but now, I don’t know.. and I feel like I’m losing my self again, because I don’t know if the who I am now is who I am, or the who I was before is who I am, and I’m so fucking confused that it makes me cry and I often hate my fucking life, hate being who I am.. what I am… what I’ve become.. what I was…. so confused